Reply to "Being Gay(ish)"

Frisco, I have known you for many years. And over the years I have called you by many names, but I don't think that any of them have fit more than when I called you "homosexually questionable."

For those of you who don't know; the definition of homosexually questionable is that we know that he is going to be gay, but we don't know when. It is always assumed that he will be gay, but every once in a while, he will say something completely hetero and catch us all off guard...

But that is besides the point... The point is, you have a wider range of options than I do in the dating scene, as well as the fact that you have probably had more actual dating experience than I have.

One other thing... on the Oprah quote... if you "love yourself" please keep it to yourself... (sorry bud, couldn't resist the joke)

But I believe that my biggest problem with online dating... is the dreaded first message... you never know what to say... you always end up rambling on... much like this post...

Also, Frisco... one more thing to you... with you looking for other men, it is a toss up on who will send that first message. He may send you one or you can send him one... but for a straight man... unless you have a six pack and post many shirtless photos... she isn't making the first move...

Online Dating

Ok, I feel like I can be straight with you... eventhough I probably don't know most of the people that read this blog. But that is the wonderful power of annonimity that the interweb provides.

After having a woman to lay next to and be close with for four years, then having it end... well after sleeping alone for a while I am feeling a little lonely...

I have hit the bars, the library, the coffee shops... and either I find nothing but women who are taken, not my type, or I get so nervous and awkward that I can't even talk to them...

I have had little successes... got a couple numbers... but it was just as friends... nothing more...

So I decided to turn to online dating.... (duh duh duuuuuuunnnn)

Honestly... after being on the online dating scene, I have found that women on the online dating sites do one of two things... they either lie, or judge...

I am so tired of going to a woman's profile and seeing the phrase, "I live life to the fullest".... What the fuck does that even mean?

I have had many conversations with women on there... and some had been going very well... or so I thought... then out of the blue... every message I send ends up being shown as "read/deleted"

I am tired of the games and the bullshit of online dating... and I need to get back out there... hit the bars... see what is out there for real... who wants to be my wingman? I will return the favor.